So much has happened!

So, as of my last post, I was going home to give Jake a drug test (Jake being my husbands 18 yr old brother who lives with us). Well, once I finished writing up my blog, my boss called me into his office to let me go due to the economy. Well, thats just fricking wonderful. So needless to say when I did get home from work that night I wasn't quite in the mood to deal with the issue that was at hand, so I didn't do it. I went to my mothers house instead, just for someone to talk to...you know, that motherly support after just losing my job. I talked to her about the situation with Jake, and she thought I should talk to him instead of just wipping out the drug test. So I took her advice, and on Saturday I talked to him, and he said he was just really tired when he came home that night. So I believed him.

Now, this last weekend my hubby came home to visit. He got in around dinner time, and Jake was nowhere to be found. He was outside somewhere, so we went to dinner, came home, the girls went outside to play, and when it started to get dark, I told them to come inside...all this time still not seeing Jake (and he knew my hubby was coming home). So when the girls come in, I ask them if they saw Jake at all when they were outside, they said he came up to the front of the house, asked them if my hubby was home, they told him yes, then he went to the park. Without even coming in to say hello.

So about 9:30 rolls around, and he comes in the house, face red as can be, all sweaty, and looking guilty as hell. My hubby asks him whats up, he says nothing. He then asks him why he didn't at least come inside and say hello earlier....and get this, he tells him he didn't know he was home. OH NO, thats when the shit hit the fan, Hubby called him out on lying, preceded to question him about his actions lately, and lo and behold, he admits to him that he has smoked marijuana. And not just a one time thing, but he's done it several times.

So my hubby precedes to lay down the rules, take away his driving privaleges until he can afford his own insurance, and tells him that from now on, we get all his money, and if he wants something we will buy it, but he doesn't get to have control of his money. And he also tells him that from here on out we will randomly be drug testing and the first time he fails, he's on a bus back to his mothers house.

Now I have to say I was surprised that my hubby didn't kick him out right then and there. And I have mixed feelings about it. In a way, I want him to go, I'm sick of him being lazy and doing nothing for himself. He has no ambition, and I don't see that changing. And in all honestly I truly feel that you can't force someone to want something for themselves, they have to want it. But on the other hand, I know that if we send him back to his mom, he will end up on drugs all the time, and in jail. What to do? I just don't know.

I QUIT...I don't want to deal with a teenager!!

First, let me say I'm sorry I haven't posted in a couple days, its been a hectic week! As you know Kierstin was sick, and that wasn't fun, but she's finally over it...thank you, thank you!!

Anyways, onto the latest drama....As I've told you before, we have my hubbys brother who lives with us. And, he has a tendency to act up when my hubby's not around.

Well, last night he asked if he could go and hang out with some friends (one whom I know and up to this point have liked, and another one that he recently met). Now the one he recently met is kind of questionable. He just looks like a hoodlum.

So, I said yes. I can't not trust him until he gives me a reason to, cause that wouldn't be fair. So they pick him up at around 6:15, he asks what time he has to be home, and I told him I didn't care, just not too late (he is 18). So at about 8:30 he comes home. Walks in the door, goes straight downstairs to where his room is (which he never does, he always comes in, sits down wherever I am and talks) and changes his clothes, then preceeds to go in the bathroom and I can hear the water running, he was in the bathroom for like 10 minutes....suspicious right? So anyways, he finally comes upstairs, and he won't look at me, and even when I try to talk to him, he's looking everywhere but at me, using the dogs as a distraction..and so on. Now, I wasn't born yesterday. I lived it up when I was a teenager. As far as I can tell, he's high!

So I keep trying to get a good look at his eyes....they're glossy. At this point I'm going over scenarios in my head, should I tell my hubby, should I confront him, should I give him a drug test? I just don't know. So, I decide of course I'm going to tell my hubby, I believe in being open and honest, and I'll be damned if I'm going to keep this to myself. So I go in my room and call him, and tell him. Of course he's not happy. He tells me to go get a drug test and give it to Jake when I get home from work today. He also says that if its positive, we're kicking him out. Oh the stress! So I got a drug test on my lunch break, my stomach has been a wreck all day, and in about an hour I get off work, so home I go, and I have to give him a drug test. (A little history on Jake...he came to live with us right before he turned 16, he had problems at home, had gotten into some trouble, and yes...did drugs) Now, since we've had him, he's been pretty good. No drugs, he's gotten into minor trouble with us a few times, but nothing major...just typical teen stuff. Deep down he's a good kid, he just had a rough life...and his mother is a mental case, which of course didn't help him.

I'm just so nervous. What if I'm wrong, what if he didn't do anything wrong, then I'll really feel like an ASS! But, on the other hand, I can't take chances...I have 2 little girls at home, and I don't want any of that shit around my kids. Welcome to my crazy, dramatic life. I will let you know how the test goes......I'm hoping for the best :D

He's going away, and I'm left with craziness

Well, today my hubby officially left to start his (and our) journey back into military life. Now I should start out telling you how my day went. First, I woke up at 4 a.m. cause my hubby was leaving at 4:30 and of course I wanted to talk to him and see him off. So we talked, and at about 4:20 he goes into the girls rooms to kiss them goodbye. He comes back in our room and says that Kierstin is awake, so of course I tell him to have her come climb in bed with me. (My intentions were to go to back to sleep when he left) She climbs in bed, and I ask her what she's doing awake...reply: "I don't feel good". Great! As if today wasn't going to be hard enough. So the hubby leaves, and ten minutes after he leaves, she is throwing up all over the place. This continued all morning, even as I was trying to get myself ready for work, I'm lucky I even had a shower, and I definately am not looking my best today.

So I leave her home with Jake (the "3rd" child -my hubbys brother who lives with us)(he's 18). I go to work, exhausted. I am so frigging tired I could literally sleep sitting up at my desk.

Now a little background so you understand my work environment. I work with 2 older men. One is a 45 yr old virgin, who has never had a girlfriend, wife, or kids....and he smells kind of funny. Not only that but its hard to carry a conversation on with him cause he stutters alot. (I'm not trying to be mean, it just is what it is), And the owner of my company is pretty laid back, but wears shirts that his chest hair hangs out of, and most of the time he comes into work with bedhead. We work in a small office...so, if your not working...its obvious. So needless to say I'm struggling just to make it through the day.

And to top it all off, I accidentally opened "Jake's" mail from his bank....thinking it was ours, and lo and behold his bank account is overdrawn $500 dollars and they are closing it. Great....this should be fun to deal with. So theres the summary of the day so far. Its been so exhausting that I haven't even had a chance for it to sink in that my hubbys gone for the next couple months. I'm sure tomorrow when I've had some sleep it will all set in.

The Start

Well today begins my blogging journey. I am married to a sailor, we have 2 children (kind of 3), we have guardianship of my hubbys brother also.

He has been in the Navy twice, and is going on his 3rd time. But, this time it is to be a lifer. He did his first enlistment, then got out, only to be recalled to go over to iraq. After his deployment, he then got back out to give it a try in the civilian world. After us both finally finding great jobs, my hubby had a job with a big engineering firm, and I have a job as a executive IT recruiter. Now, we live in Northeast Ohio...I'm not sure if anyone knows how the economy is here, but it sucks, more and more companies closing everyday. So, my husband got let go from his "wonderful" job in November.

After very careful consideration, we decided this time he was going back in to retire. We had both missed the military life, and the benefits that go along with it. So, my hubby got approved, and he leaves on Monday to officially be back in the military.

As I mentioned before we have 2-3 kids, we have 2 girls, their names are Kierstin age 9, and Kayla age 7, and we have my hubbys brother Jake who turned 18 in August (we have had him since he was 15).

The girls seem to be doing okay with the fact that Daddy is leaving...they have dealt with it before. I think Kayla will struggle with it a little more, she doesn't always do so well with change, especially when it is daddy leaving. Kierstin will be ok, she's a tough little cookie. Now onto Jake. I'm worried, he seems to act up when my hubbys not around. I know, I know, he's 18 and officially an adult, but in reality he functions at about a 13yr old level.

Now, I have been through the deployments and all, I know I'll be okay. I'm just not so sure that at the age of 29, I'm ready to cope with the dealings of a teenage boy. I guess we'll have to wait and see what this will all bring.